Since morning I've been thinking about the writing this article on the sayings of few people who have been part of my life. Their sayings have echoed in my mind since the day they said them. Some of them well, one might have read somewhere but when it was said by that person, it actually meant something deeper. I'm not mentioning their names but one fine day I would. I don't remember the conversation in some cases. But, lets hear to what they said:
1. "I don't cry often like you to make my tears less valuable. I cry only once."- a masters friend.
That was said to me on being too emotional about things. Next time, I'm going to think about it before I cry. I hope he'll be happy to hear this!
2. "A manager's first trait should be to have stability of mind." -my brother
Now this was said to have a calmness effect on me.
3. "Be happy, for you will get nothing less or more than what is destined for you."- my mother
This was to let me know that being in a positive state of mind is more important than getting a good paying job.
4. "I do what I like. I like what I do."- a school friend who has left his career in which he was academically inclined to a career in which he is passionately involved.
The DWYL (the do what you love) syndrome. This quote have been said by many inspirational writers. But, it really doesn't count much unless it comes from a person whom you admire as a person. Well, it was said on being quizzed about his sleeping hours duration and why he sleeps so little?
5. "You don't live for yourself. You live for others." - my undergrad friend
This was said to me when I told her that I don't keep in touch with most of my friends. It is difficult for me to make a conversation once we've left talking for months.
6. "All men are selfish."-My English teacher of high school
She just said this in between the class. This saying has stayed with me because at that time, I felt a pain in her eyes while saying this. Now that I've met diverse individuals in my life, I don't beg to differ with this line.
7. "And this (Sky pouring with rain) is called divine intervention. No more class. Go out!"
- the same English teacher
This was said in one of those extra classes that we had in class 12th. It was such a hot weather in May and it started raining. Windows opened on their own, thanks to the cool wind. And, when my teacher said this, the whole class went to the open verandah near the library and got drenched in the rain. That was true liberation!
8. "It is okay to be selfish. Everyone is selfish. But, it is bad to be self-centred."
- one of my school friend
While there is little difference between the word selfish and self centred with both words being used synonymously, the meaning that I interpreted at that time is what matters. Everyone thinks about their personal benefit but only thinking about yourself is something that is really mean.
9. "We can't do something good for others. At least, we mustn't say something wrong."
- my school friend
The conversation was about how selfish people deserve to get bad consequences.
10. "I don't know when you get older whether you remember me or not. But I'll come to your wedding to see you as a bride even if I'm forgotten to be invited."
-One of my aunt in my neighbourhood with whom I stayed when my parents were away for their jobs.
She said this when I was a little child. Ofcourse, at that time I did not understand anything because in childhood, you are not acquainted with the truth that nothing lasts forever.
11. "Ignorance is such a bliss." -my school friend
- I was like "Bang on!"
These people, many of them I don't talk everyday. Many of them, I've talked after years. But, that doesn't mean, I've forgotten them and their saying which had the bitter sweet truths of life. I'm sure these people don't remember what they said. But to whom, they said, it meant a lot.
1. "I don't cry often like you to make my tears less valuable. I cry only once."- a masters friend.
That was said to me on being too emotional about things. Next time, I'm going to think about it before I cry. I hope he'll be happy to hear this!
2. "A manager's first trait should be to have stability of mind." -my brother
Now this was said to have a calmness effect on me.
3. "Be happy, for you will get nothing less or more than what is destined for you."- my mother
This was to let me know that being in a positive state of mind is more important than getting a good paying job.
4. "I do what I like. I like what I do."- a school friend who has left his career in which he was academically inclined to a career in which he is passionately involved.
The DWYL (the do what you love) syndrome. This quote have been said by many inspirational writers. But, it really doesn't count much unless it comes from a person whom you admire as a person. Well, it was said on being quizzed about his sleeping hours duration and why he sleeps so little?
5. "You don't live for yourself. You live for others." - my undergrad friend
This was said to me when I told her that I don't keep in touch with most of my friends. It is difficult for me to make a conversation once we've left talking for months.
6. "All men are selfish."-My English teacher of high school
She just said this in between the class. This saying has stayed with me because at that time, I felt a pain in her eyes while saying this. Now that I've met diverse individuals in my life, I don't beg to differ with this line.
7. "And this (Sky pouring with rain) is called divine intervention. No more class. Go out!"
- the same English teacher
This was said in one of those extra classes that we had in class 12th. It was such a hot weather in May and it started raining. Windows opened on their own, thanks to the cool wind. And, when my teacher said this, the whole class went to the open verandah near the library and got drenched in the rain. That was true liberation!
8. "It is okay to be selfish. Everyone is selfish. But, it is bad to be self-centred."
- one of my school friend
While there is little difference between the word selfish and self centred with both words being used synonymously, the meaning that I interpreted at that time is what matters. Everyone thinks about their personal benefit but only thinking about yourself is something that is really mean.
9. "We can't do something good for others. At least, we mustn't say something wrong."
- my school friend
The conversation was about how selfish people deserve to get bad consequences.
10. "I don't know when you get older whether you remember me or not. But I'll come to your wedding to see you as a bride even if I'm forgotten to be invited."
-One of my aunt in my neighbourhood with whom I stayed when my parents were away for their jobs.
She said this when I was a little child. Ofcourse, at that time I did not understand anything because in childhood, you are not acquainted with the truth that nothing lasts forever.
11. "Ignorance is such a bliss." -my school friend
- I was like "Bang on!"
These people, many of them I don't talk everyday. Many of them, I've talked after years. But, that doesn't mean, I've forgotten them and their saying which had the bitter sweet truths of life. I'm sure these people don't remember what they said. But to whom, they said, it meant a lot.
Very well written Madhu.... This piece clearly states how much you value your close ones and also their words. Very beautifully stated all the advises. After reading this I'm like, I wish I could have also given you some advice... That advice would have got a chance to be stated so amazingly ... Good work!! Keep going :)
ReplyDeleteThank you so much Swapnil. :) There must be something in our conversation and I'm sure it will find an appropriate place somewhere some day.
DeleteWell written and well remembered, the elephantine memory has spoken :D
ReplyDeleteAb bol mera kaunsa advice le rahe hai life ki baari mein? ;)
Hahaha.. :D It is said that women remember things for a 1000 years. I'm a true example of that. Yes, I'm going to put your dialogues on record sooner or later. ;)
DeleteSeems like I am an exception to that rule :D
DeleteThe kind of memory I have requires discipline and dedication, lets just say. haha :P
Delete"All men are selfish". I beg to differ. Lol
ReplyDeletehahaha :D Well, to escape the wrath of the male gender. I will save myself by saying "men" here referred to mankind! :P
DeleteMadhu; i have personally heard many of the above lines from u; nd liked the way u have compiled it; many times something randomly said my someone gets etched in our memory nd those thoughts stay with us for our life as if they have some mysterious significance in our life nd they guide us when a related situation to that saying or thought arises!!
ReplyDeleteThank you Akansha! Yes, you have exactly read my mind about how these quotes come up time and again. Thanks for being my loyal reader. Its a pleasure to have you in my life. :)
DeleteThese quotes are just so precious. Each one has a connection with our life in some ways or the other. The one where you said that we live for others was by me right? It's nice to see you took it up as one of your life learnings. :D
ReplyDeleteIt could be rephrased as, "We are not meant to live alone. You live to be with others."
Well compiled. Keep up the great work and efforts! :)
Yes, that was said by you on our way from KMC to Vishwa Vidyalaya metro station in the winter weather. I remember you wore a white sweater, holding your cell phone and ear phone on your hand. I loved that walk. Surely, a walk to remember. Thanks for staying with me. :')
DeleteLove, Madhurima